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mPowered Monday means Band Director Boot Camp Podcast Episode #1 – “Balancing the Baton: Productivity and Wellness Insights from a Veteran Band Directorâ
In this episode, we’re joined by Heather Marsh Meyers, a 17-year teaching veteran and band director who shares her journey in the profession and the strategies she’s developed to maintain her productivity and wellness.
Heather discusses the challenges of balancing her career with her personal life, especially as a mother. She shares her experiences with anxiety and the moments when she questioned whether she could continue in the profession.
However, Heather also shares the strategies she’s developed to overcome these challenges and find a sustainable balance in her life.
Key discussions in this episode include:
The importance of asking for help and understanding what you need to feel supported.
The role of scheduling and routine in managing stress and maintaining productivity.
The impact of social media on our perceptions of success and happiness.
The concept of “Golden Sundays” as a dedicated family time.
The importance of self-care and finding activities outside of work that bring joy.
The power of discipline over motivation in maintaining productivity and wellness.
Heather’s insights are invaluable for any band director seeking to improve their productivity and wellness.
Whether you’re a new band director or a seasoned veteran, you’ll find something to take away from this episode. Enjoy!
Start Now and Progress â or SNaP to it â are strategies Iâve developed to help change or create behaviors in a hurry. I want to take a little bit of time to explore how it is we most effectively go about changing habits for ourselves and how we teach other people to change their habits. That way, when it comes to teaching students these new skills Iâm introducing in the next chapter, youâll have some ideas of ways you can teach them the skills that make it easy for them to learn and retain the content you are teaching them. Iâm going to offer what may feel like silly suggestions that you might be tempted to skip over, but these little exercises are simple ways for you to understand how to teach yourself or others to break a bad habit, create a new habit, or up-level how you do something. Once you master the ability to effectively do that, everything becomes easier.
Almost everyone learns best when they do it in manageable chunks. Thatâs just a fact of life. When I was a kid (and a young teacher), I âpracticedâ and ârehearsedâ by playing music over and over rather than stopping and working on the things that were hard. Often, what I was really doing was practicing the wrong notes and bad habits over and over, thereby reinforcing them instead of properly mastering a skill before trying to play an entire piece. My mother used to call this âplowing through the musicâ instead of practicing. It was hard to make any kind of predictable progress when I took this approach.
On the other hand, when I finally wised up and learned how to break things down into smaller components, I could effortlessly master the small skill sets, and the bigger pieces began to fall in place much more accurately and with greater ease. It takes time to figure out how to break the bigger goals down and it takes discipline to routinely practice the new habits, but as a music teacher, you already know the benefits of practicing in this way. The same technique holds up whenever you are trying to learn a new skill, build a new habit, or replace a bad habit, whether thatâs for you as an individual or when you are teaching students.
Often, when we have a lofty goal, we try to jump directly to it without doing the work to get there rather than planning the steps we can take to reach that goal. Iâm guilty of this, thatâs for sure. There were many occasions I passed out a new tune to the jazz band that I was super stoked for them to play. Inevitably, the lead trumpet part would be a major third higher than Freddy, my lead trumpet player, could comfortably play. But, in my exuberance, I passed out the tune and we went for it. In the learning process, Freddy would miss the notes at first, but given time (and enough pressure on his lips), heâd squeak out those high Cs, and Iâd pat myself on the back for being such a great teacher because the band was playing this awesome chart.
But then weâd get to the performances, and it became obvious that he really didnât have the solid range or endurance he needed to consistently (and with good tone) play in that tessitura. He missed notes or stopped playing altogether because his chops got so tired or nerves would take over and heâd default to old habits. I was really causing him more long-term harm than good. He didnât really learn how to extend his range and play well. Instead, he learned how to use bad habits (pressure and more pressure) to squeak out notes that could have come easily if I taught him how to properly and gradually build up his endurance.
I found it was much more effective to help students build their range one small step at a time if I wanted them to truly develop as musicians. Instead of trying to force something out of a horn using techniques that either caused bad habits to form or that werenât dependable for long-term use before they were ready, I began teaching kids how to build their range a half-step at a time. In a matter of weeks, students built the muscles in their embouchures so they can reliably and consistently nail those pitches. By adding just one half-step at a time until it becomes an easy part of the studentâs range, kids like Freddy can build a foundation that rapidly allows for growth. Before you know it, those high Cs are popping out with good tone, pitch, and consistency â all without putting pressure on his chops and causing damage to his facial muscles!
It doesnât take as long to build a habit or skill as you might think. It does, however, take a clear intention (goal) and persistence (consistency) in order to see the results you want.
I remember losing seventy-five pounds and feeling really good about my body, except for one thing. Every time I was conducting and cut the band off, my upper arms would continue flapping. I hated that. But when you lose a lot of weight, thatâs one of the âperks.â So, I decided to do something about it.
All my life, Iâve had physical challenges that kept me from being athletic or in shape. Due to arthritis and other issues in my skeletal system, from the time I was a kid, doctors advised me to âtake it easy, donât do athletics, and drop out of PE,â right before sentencing me to five years in a back brace all through middle school and high school. (I now realize that was horrible advice, but back in the 1970s, thatâs how they âtreatedâ the chronic pain I had.)
Anyway, until I was fifty-one years old, I avoided exercising, but as I began to take control of my health and become empowered to figure out how to be healthier, I realized I was capable of far more physical activity than I ever believed. So, rather than continue being passive about my movement, I became addicted to yoga. That got me in really good shape, but my upper arms still insisted on jiggling, so I decided to do something about it once and for all.
On April 1, 2019, I made the commitment to do a pushup. One pushup. It was the longest five minutes of my life! I was shaking as I tried to push myself away from the ground, beads of sweat forming above my eyebrows, imagining my arms giving out with me plummeting (twelve inches) face-first to the ground. It was hard. But I did it. Just one pushup.
On April 2, I did two pushups. They were both really hard and I was pretty sure I had reached my maximum potential for the number of reps Iâd ever be able to do.
But on April 3, I set out to do three pushups. On this particular morning, the first pushup wasnât quite as hard as my first pushup was on April 1, but the next two more than made up for it.
As each day progressed, I added one more pushup. Predictably, the more pushups I did, the easier it was to do more and more of them. By the time Tax Day rolled around on April 15, I was up to fifteen pushups! That was huge. I went from barely being able to do one pushup just two weeks before to suddenly being able to do fifteen. Sure, the last four or five were difficult, but the first ten were consistently doable without too much effort because my body was being trained to do this new movement and it was becoming a habit.
I was seeing results in my arms, so I was highly motivated to continue. On April 16, I could have done sixteen pushups, but I decided to stick with fifteen ⌠but about an hour later, I did a second set of fifteen pushups, so by April 16, I did thirty pushups in one day! Now I was seeing exponential growth. So, when April 20 rolled around, I added another set of fifteen pushups and was up to forty-five pushups a day. On April 30, I added a fourth set, bringing my daily pushup total to sixty pushups. By April 1 of 2020, just one year after starting this push-up extravaganza, I established a daily routine of completing 100 push-ups each morning. No more jiggly arms for this girl!
By taking small, incremental steps that built upon what I did each day before, I was able to take a skill that was very difficult for me on April 1 and do it sixty times just thirty days later. Can you imagine what happens when you build your studentsâ skills like that, or when you do your own learning in bite-sized increments? Itâs almost impossible to fail.
In my first book, I refer to this process as SNaP Strategies. SNaP stands for Start Now and Progress, meaning that you start with one small but manageable task or skill and take small but easy-to-accomplish steps you need to take to reach your goal.
What I love about SNaP Strategies is that they allow you to practice the art of changing, learning, or replacing a habit in ways that focus more on the concept than content so you can later apply the concept in a variety of situations. Itâs a lot like teaching our students to play scales and etudes. They donât perform those in concerts, but itâs through the deliberate attention to the details in those exercises that they learn to hone their muscle memory and skills without all the distractions theyâd find if you gave them a piece of literature that required them to implement too many skills they werenât taught yet.
In my exuberance of wanting to share great music with my students, I often gave them literature that was not well-matched to their cognitive or physical abilities or skills. Itâs frustrating for everyone. That would have been the same as me trying to do sixty push-ups on April 1, 2019 with no incremental steps in going from zero to sixty in thirty days. Thereâs no way I could have safely done that, but I could do it in thirty days when I planned it out and consistently practiced that skill in small increments.
Whether you are trying to change a habit, learn a new skill, or master new techniques, there are ways of making this happen much faster for yourself and your students. The quickest way to do that is to build the âhow-to-learnâ muscle, and that is done by intentionally directing attention at a goal and the incremental steps you are going to take to get there⌠and then taking those steps consistently.
As you think about your classes and what you want your students to know and be able to do as a result of your on-fire teaching abilities, youâll want to become a master at making this warp-speed growth happen. You can practice it by implementing some simple SNaP strategies now so you are making it a daily habit to retrain your brain and your kidsâ brains. Then, when it comes time to getting your students on board with your new and improved classroom atmosphere, youâll have more strategies for helping them adopt new habits quickly.
Homework Alert
On the following pages are some SNaP Strategies you might want to consider as ways to practice learning how to change behaviors or create a new habit quicker and more effectively than in the past. Make a commitment to doing a strategy for at least a week, then be curious and ask yourself a few questions about what you observed. Write your observations in a journal so you can see what changes over time.
What did I notice when I did this strategy?
When you do this activity, just be aware of how you feel when you are doing it. Does it make you happy, anxious, peaceful, or bloated? Just notice.
What was hard about it?
Were you tempted to not do it sometimes? What brought resistance?
What was rewarding?
Did it feel particularly good to do the activity, or was the result of doing it something youâd like to experience again?
Do the results align with my personal/professional goals or do they distract me?
Remember, you prioritized those goals in the previous chapter, so hold yourself accountable to doing actions that support you in achieving your goals.
Do I want to keep this behavior, modify it, or replace it?
When I was struggling with my health and realized many of my conditions were due to food sensitivities, I had to figure out what foods were exacerbating my symptoms, so I began noticing how I felt after eating certain foods. It wasnât long before I noticed a direct correlation between consuming gluten and my joint pain â when I ate gluten, I was in constant pain. When I didnât eat gluten, my joints didnât hurt, and I lost a lot of weight without changing anything else, and my ADHD symptoms improved drastically. I liked how I felt when my body didnât hurt and my brain worked better, so as hard as it is to avoid gluten, itâs a behavior I will continue because I am motivated to feel good.
If you like the changes you are seeing, then you may want to continue the new habit or behavior. If you donât like the changes or they arenât worth the effort, then you can at least use the questions above to enlighten you about what you learned from the experiment. When you practice this kind of intentional attention to the little things, the big things become much easier to accomplish.
Here are some ideas of SNaP Strategies for busy band directors. These are just a few suggestions â you can be as creative as you want to be with what you want to do. The point is to deliberately set a goal and break it down into small steps you can take every day to help you get there sooner.
SNaP Strategy #1: Gratitude for the Attitude: You find what you look for, 100 percent of the time. So, if you want students who are polite, respectful, engaged, helpful, attentive, and enthusiastic, then look for those qualities in the kids who are right there in front of you every day. They may be difficult to see amongst the distractions that draw your attention away, such as the disruptive students and other responsibilities that get in the way of you noticing the kiddos who always come to class and try to do what you want them to do, but they are there.
When you identify and acknowledge the behaviors you want to see continue, you get more of those â just like when you identify and acknowledge the behaviors you donât want, those become the prevalent behaviors.
Hereâs what I mean by that statement. Did you ever have a student who was disruptive, so you talked to him, contacted parents, sent an email to the counselor, and finally went to the principal because you were at the end of your rope? Every day, you could make a list a mile long about all the things Max was doing to be disruptive. Itâs so obvious to you â you notice him as he comes in the room loudly, takes too long to get set up, and never seems to be ready to play when you want him to be, but when you donât want him to play, heâs playing. No matter where you move him, he talks to the people next to him, distracting them from being engaged in your riveting rehearsal. He seems to suck up all your attention and energy, diverting it from the other twenty-nine (or sixty) kids in the classroom.
As hard as it seems, what if you could shift your attention (even for a moment) to look for the kinds of behaviors you wanted to see more of, such as Myah going out of her way to put away extra music stands at the end of rehearsal, Ryan helping a new student find music, or Emily asking if she can come in at lunch so she can show you how she finally mastered playing pedal tones on her trombone? Could you find something positive that is going right in just about every class? Or, could you find something Max does that doesnât drive you crazy? Anything? Look for it. Youâll find something if you look hard enough.
Every day before you leave school, make it a point to acknowledge one student for doing something you want to see continue. I suggest doing it in the form of an email so it can be saved. This is an exercise that has several purposes. It forces you to look for something positive amongst the chaos. When you know you are going to be looking for something positive, youâll have a different mindset. At first it will be hard to do, especially when it feels like youâre drowning in overdrive; but when you practice looking for the positive, it becomes easier.
Sending an email to the studentâs parents, principal, counselor, or any adult who the student and parent would be proud to hear good news from is a way for that student to know that the people who are there to support him are also sharing in his accomplishments. Sending notes like this has a fabulous ripple effect. Even if you only got a glimpse of a positive behavior from a student, if it was there and you acknowledge it and that child gets positive feedback from you, his parents, and another adult or two who saw the email, then heâs going to want more of that, so heâll begin to show you more behaviors like that.
This process is something I look forward to. Itâs my reward at the end of each workday. It makes me leave work with a smile on my face.
Hereâs your homework â it should be joyful and take no more than five minutes each day.
Each day, be on the lookout for one behavior from a student that you can send a positive email about
Before leaving school for the day, send a quick email thatâs something like this:
To the Parents of Lili CC: Principal, Counselor, Softball Coach
Hello Ms. Smith:
I wanted to send a quick note to you and let you know how much I appreciate having Lili in our band program. Every day in class, I notice how Lili comes in with enthusiasm, takes responsibility for setting up her own equipment, and is ready to play when class starts. Her active participation makes her such a positive role model for her peers.
I sincerely appreciate having Lili in our music program. Thank you for supporting her so she can be a part of our band family.
Mrs. Moffat
Iâve been doing this for years because it feels good and I see the benefits as students respond with more of the positive behaviors. It feels good to be the one writing the letter, because I often hear back from a parent about how much it meant to hear from me. I love the âthis email will go on the fridgeâ responses I get from proud parents, but what I didnât really understand was how good it felt to be on the receiving end of a letter like that.
We got a new superintendent in the 2019â2020 school year. On the sixth day of school, he and my principal popped into my classroom and stayed for almost thirty minutes. They watched as my students and I went through our daily routine and then rehearsed New World Symphony. It was the third day we played that year. This class has sixty kids in grades nine through twelve who got to see important adults take an interest in what they were doing. The superintendent and principal got a chance to see what our students do every day and I thought it was cool to have administrators who cared enough to spend that kind of time in our classroom. I was impressed.
What really surprised me, though, was receiving an envelope in the mail a few days later. You remember old-school letters, right? Anyway, inside that envelope was a letter from the superintendent. It was just a few sentences long, but because of the fact that he took the time to articulate and write a note letting me know he appreciated what I was doing in my classroom, those few sentences meant a lot. And guess what â he CCâd my principal, and when I was walking down the hall the next day, Mr. Peters said, âDid you see the letter from the superintendent?â Yup â it felt good to have the people I respect recognize what Iâm doing in the classroom.
Thatâs how our kids and their parents feel when we share good news. Try it. See how it makes you feel. See how it makes your kids feel. And if you like it, then youâve just established a habit that will have an incredible ripple effect on your kiddos and your program for a very long time.
SNaP Strategy #2: Time Stealers: How much time do you spend every day looking for stuff, like the paperwork you just filled out for the upcoming field trip, or your score for Danzon No. 2, or the cup of coffee you made three hours ago? If youâre like most band directors, your office is a bit disheveled (and maybe even your car, too). I noticed that the state of my desk often reflects the state of my mind, so it becomes a visual reminder for me to slow down when I see my desk becoming overly disorganized.
For a few days, notice how much time you spend looking for things that should be easy to locate. Donât judge yourself; just notice. Are you constantly looking for your keys? Do you walk into a room, wonder why you are there, and waste time standing there, trying to clear your head so you can remember? Do you frantically search for that ASB PO you need in order to get a deposit made for an upcoming festival? Do you find yourself filling out paperwork over and over because you start it and then get distracted and never get it completed? Do you have thirty-six kids standing in your personal bubble asking you to help them find music, fix their broken sax, or get a new reed? Is your physical space cluttered? Estimate how much time you spend in this state of mind (for me, I easily used to spend an hour a day spinning my wheels â feeling like I was working because I was doing things, but mostly I was re-doing things or trying to organize myself to get stuff done.)
SNaP: Pick one place (desk, office, car, filing cabinet, etc.) where you find yourself being sucked into wasting time and energy because itâs getting in your way. Set aside five minutes a day to actively transform the place. Hint: Steps 1 through 3 could be done on three different days for five minutes each as you visualize each of these scenarios. After youâve imagined the space being ultra-functional and how that will help you serve your students and maintain your sanity, then Step 4 can be done in five minute increments for as long as needed, until your space is set the way you need it so it and you function at your peak.
Imagine what you need that space to look like in order for you to function at your best. What kinds of things will you do there? Where will things be stored? What will be in your line of sight? What will be out-of-sight but nearby?
Imagine what it will feel like in that reorganized space. What will it be like to walk into your office, sit down at a desk thatâs clutter-free, and work on one item at a time? What will it feel like to actually accomplish the task you sat down to do? How will it feel to do it effortlessly, without the frustration of having to go through piles of papers and other stuff to find the information you need to complete your task?
Imagine what is possible when you no longer have the visual clutter to distract you and hinder your creativity. Itâs like closing down all the apps on your phone that are draining your battery. Visual clutter impedes our learning and adds stress to our days. Visualize âdeletingâ the visual clutter in your space to free up your energy for other things.
Set aside five minutes a day to do something to make the space a closer version of your vision. Five minutes. It might take five days or thirty days to complete the task, but either way, the time will pass. Why not have something improve during that time? What space decluttering would give you the most bang for your buck? Start there. Once youâve completed decluttering this space, notice whatâs changed. If you find that the more organized space allows you to save time, function better, and be less flustered, then youâve just had a big win! If it doesnât impact your ability to function, then youâll realize this isnât an important contributor to your stress.
SNaP Strategy #3: Reset Yourself: Whether youâre going from home to school or between lunch duty and percussion ensemble, itâs difficult to bounce from one situation to another and shift gears. I have a few rituals I do that help me transition quickly and effectively so I can head into a new situation and quickly adjust.
Each morning, when Iâd pull into the parking lot, I used to get really annoyed with the worldâs biggest speed bumps. They irritated me because if I didnât slow down enough, the bottom of my car would sound like fingernails on a chalkboard as the speedbumps scraped the undercarriage of my red Volvo. In an effort to protect my car, even though I was in a hurry to get into my classroom, Iâd begrudgingly slow down enough to get my mom-car over the bumps without taking out an axle.
A couple of years ago, I thought about the purpose of the speed bumps (other than to annoy me). They were put there to force people to slow down and check their surroundings so they can make sure itâs safe before they continue. Itâs a simple concept. But we all know that without the speedbumps there to provide âincentiveâ (in the form of not ruining our cars), most people wonât slow down. Thatâs how accidents, mistakes, and time-wasting happen. When we donât take the time to check our surroundings, double-check our work, or make sure we are setting ourselves up for success, we run the risk of things going wrong.
I finally came to the realization that speedbumps are actually a good thing. Those oversized and irritating concrete nuisances serve a very important purpose. Theyâd undoubtedly saved hundreds of lives as careless kids with their heads in their phones cross the parking lot without looking for cars and countless moms behind the wheel with curlers in their hair as they drop off their kids at school âglancedâ at their phones as they drove through the parking lot toward those wayward teenagers. Those speed bumps reminded distracted drivers to slow down and be on the lookout and have prevented many tragedies.
How many times a day do you do or say something you wish you could undo? Did you ever do something in a hurry and then realized that if you had taken a moment to think about it, you could have saved yourself a lot of time and frustration? You need to come up with your own âspeed bumps.â Find something you encounter or do a few times a day â it could be driving over speed bumps or unlocking your classroom door or anything else. Just pick something, and then make a commitment that every time you are in that situation, you reset yourself.
For me, resetting means closing my eyes (or softening my gaze) and taking three deep breaths that extend into every fiber of my body and make me feel like Iâm expanding 360-degrees. That act alone slows my heart rate, lowers my blood pressure, and reduces or stops the production of cortisol. I am able, in about sixty seconds, to change my body to go from shooting out toxic hormones that interfere with my health to producing feel-good hormones like dopamine that relax me on the spot. This didnât just happen the first time I took three deep breaths. I had to practice training my brain and body to respond like that, but it didnât take long, and now I can do it on-demand!
I also found that my day starts a whole lot better when I go through my morning routine. Once I pull into my parking space, I get my keys and badge out of the cupholder of my car. While I clip the badge on the waistline of my pants, I simply set an intention of serving my students to the best of my abilities. I know my content is important, but I know my students are more important, and I remind myself to keep that at the core of every action I take and decision I make. As I put my key into my classroom door, I intentionally take a deep inhale and put a smile on my face before turning the key to the right and opening the door.
That might seem silly to mention, but the thirty seconds I spend paying attention to my intention does wonders in helping me remember why Iâm doing this important work. When I put a smile on my face, it automatically makes me feel good because the act of smiling signals our brains we are happy, which, in turns, causes our bodies to produce hormones that make us actually feel happy. Since I no longer teach the zero-period jazz band, I walk in my room while they are rehearsing. Because I intentionally put a smile on my face before walking in, the kids who notice me coming in the room automatically respond with a smile as a reflex, and thatâs a pretty awesome way to start every day!
What are your strategies for resetting yourself? Why is it important to have this ability? How can you see your next meeting or parent conference going differently if you were able to decompress yourself before going into those types of stressful situations?
Think of something you do several times a day, such as unlocking your classroom door. Make a commitment that every time you do that action, you will intentionally take another action. For example, every time you unlock your classroom door, you will intentionally take a deep breath and put a smile on your face. If you intentionally do that for 21 days, you will find that it becomes habit to smile when you unlock your classroom door. That means your body and mind will automatically be put in a positive state as your happy hormones get released and override your cortisol. It takes practice, but once you master this ability, you physically feel your heart rate decrease, depth of breath increase, and a sensation of relaxation will take place. That simple act of resetting sets you up to move forward in a different frame of mind, one that is a little less stressed and a lot more likely to help you be a calm teacher.
Identify your âspeedbumpâ of choice, that action that will signal you to slow down and regroup, and then make it an intentional habit to take a few seconds to reset each time you are in that situation. Be sure you use your journal to reflect on what you observed and how you felt when you adopted the new habit.
Like my exercise with pushups, you can invest just a few concentrated minutes a day to support yourself in being more productive or learning a new skill or creating a positive habit, and then youâve got a whole new capacity for functioning at a higher level. But more important than the clean office or organized filing cabinet is the process you just went through of identifying a goal and achieving it in incremental but consistent steps. This is how the most effective learning happens in kids and adults. Itâs biological, so donât fight it. Embrace it. Learn how to teach yourself to effortlessly change habits by using SNaP strategies. Then, you can apply the same principles to yourself and your students on a bigger scale. Always remember, itâs the consistent practice of the new skill where habits are born.
Excerpt of Chapter 7 fromLove the Job, Lose the Stress: Successful Social and Emotional Learning in the Modern Music Classroom by Lesley Moffat
As I travel around the country and talk to music teachers, I am hearing more and more stories about how, in spite of loving what they are doing, they are finding themselves wondering how much longer they can do this work. Many of them are even looking for other jobs in order to protect their health and wellbeing.
Join me on MONDAY, March 20 at 4:00 PDT to talk about the realities of how stress affects us both physically and mentally so you can learn what you can do to reduce a lot of the negative impacts of stress on your own health and wellbeing.
I’ll share my personal journey and how I went from loving a job that was killing me to being 57 years old, in my 35th year as a music teacher, and feeling better and more energetic than I did in my 30s. Let me show you what’s possible and let’s get you on a path toward a healthier, happier and more energetic version of yourself.
I’ll answer your questions and share some free goodies with you to help you bypass a lot of the frustration of trial and error that goes with trying to figure this out on your own.
Let’s talk about what’s keeping you from living your healthiest life, what your goals are and the best path for you to reach them. (Hint: It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution: you’ll actually learn how to figure out what you need and what will help you get there.)
Music teachers everywhere are telling me the past three years have brought them more stress, negative impacts on their health and their happiness has been severely impacted by the cumulative effects of the pandemic. I understand where they’re coming from and know how desperate it feels when so many things feel out of control.
I also understand why so many music teachers are looking for ways to do this work in a more sustainable way.
Everyone is asking what my secret is.Do YOU want to know?
If you are struggling with your personal health and wellbeing, I understand.
If your happiness in your career has plummeted, I get it.
If you want to be a healthy and happy music educator but aren’t sure how to go about that after everything you and your program have been through the past few years, you are not alone.
I help music teachers do this important work in a healthy and sustainable way.
Are you ready to thrive?
GOOD NEWS: I’ve got a new cohort starting in March designed to help music teachers do just this!
Set up a call with me to see if this is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for to find a healthier balance between your personal and professional lives.
Tired? Low energy? Frequent headaches? Feeling sluggish? Having trouble sleeping or sleeping too much? Dealing with less-than-stellar physical changes that are draining your zest for life?
How much easier would it be to get through your busy day and make decisions if you didn’t have the brain fog and aches and pains draining your mental and physical energy?
As music teachers are acutely aware, having an expensive high-quality wooden clarinet in excellent shape contributes to a beautiful sound, ease of playing and better response than a crappy plastic clarinet. Imagine your life as the clarinet – and imagine for a moment that your life is like the best quality wooden clarinet made.
Now imagine that the only reed you have is old, a little moldy and chipped. Even though the clarinet is top-notch, it will be nearly impossible to get it to respond favorably if the reed won’t facilitate the necessary response.
What if you now think of your life as the clarinet and the reed as your fuel – your food. No matter what kind of shape you are in, if you are not consistently consuming the kind of fuel that supports your physical and mental needs, then it’s like trying to play a fantastic clarinet with a nasty reed. It just doesn’t work very well.
The same is true for you. You must have your fuel, which is food, in order to function. There is a direct correlation between the type and quality of food you consume and every aspect of your health. Period.
For fifty-one years, I firmly believed it was healthiest to stick to the traditional food pyramid, which was built on a diet of starches and carbs and low in fats, but look where that got me. I also fell for the rationale that my weight was a direct result of the number of calories I consumed. I had no clue that the quality of the calories played a bigger role in everything from my weight to my quality of life than the number of calories. Once I understood and embraced the truth that what Iâd being doing for five decades wasnât working for me, my life changed.
My initial goal when I began the healing part of my journey was just to feel well enough to work without getting sick again. Feeling great wasnât even on my radar. I had hoped to be on a fraction of the medications I was on at the time, never dreaming that I would be weaned off all of the pharmaceuticals Iâd been on for decades. And being 5â7â and 200 pounds when I was sickest, it never dawned on me that within months I would weigh 135 pounds and wear a size 4 â and that I would have abs and a toned body simply through the gentle practices of yoga and walking.
If I had been told that my ADHD symptoms would be gone and my memory would be sharper than it had been in twenty years, Iâd have laughed at the ridiculousness of that possibility. I had no idea what was in store for me, but Iâm certainly glad I hit rock-bottom so I could begin my journey out of the downward spiral into which I had fallen. It was through this experience that the four cornerstones of my mPower Method evolved, the result of my own assessment and discovery of what was causing me to feel so horrible and what was helping me feel and function better. Once I finally figured out what had been such a mystery to me for so many years, I knew I had to share it with others who were going through the same suffocating experience.
The first component of my mPower Method is meals. The meals you eat are the basis of everything from how you feel to how you function. What you put in your body literally becomes your body. Our cells are regenerating constantly. Think about it â if you are eating foods that have been treated with pesticides, are filled with artificial ingredients, and have antibiotics and other hormones added to them, then those things are all going into your body. Your body isnât meant to use these things in productive ways that help you grow, heal, think, and function, so many of the processes your body goes through become impeded and donât work like they should.
Years and even decades of eating stuff that didnât benefit my body took its toll in the form of excess weight, acne, memory loss, brain fog, ADHD, pain, repeated infections, infertility, and dozens of other ailments. I had gotten to the point where I figured I was so far gone with such a long list of health problems that there was no turning things around, so I was about to settle for just ânot getting any worse,â but eventually I realized that option really sucked. Why should I succumb to being sick, tired, overweight, in pain, and feeling like crap when there might be a different possibility out there? After all, I was only fifty-one at the time. I wasnât ready to throw in the towel, so I figured it was now or never and I took a leap of faith and never looked back.
We have been taught in the past that we should be eating lots of fruits, veggies, and nonfat foods and avoiding fats. Our diets are inundated with sugars, grain, additives, preservatives, added hormones, and all kinds of other things our bodies werenât made to process, so our bodies respond with aches and pains or brain fog in hopes of getting our attention and letting us know what we are doing isnât working. When we ignore those symptoms, our bodies have to do something more drastic to get our attention so we will stop doing the things that are making us sick. I didnât get the message until my body was riddled with all kinds of ailments, including painful arthritis due to swollen joints, migraines, difficulty sleeping, difficulty staying asleep, a lack of energy, and brain fog that was so bad I actually went to my doctor, afraid I had early-onset dementia.
The bottom line as to why I felt so crappy and was constantly sick was because I wasnât giving my body the kind of nutrients it needed to work properly, so it simply couldnât get or stay healthy. It really was that simple, and I found that out after just a week of eliminating gluten from my diet. (I had done lots of research and asked a lot of health care professionals questions to help me figure out where to begin. This was what made sense for me. Your first step should be based on your particular needs.)
That one small change was eye-opening, so I added another by eliminating grains as well. Within a week of completely avoiding grains (which is not an easy task), I noticed that I had lost five pounds without even trying, my joints werenât quite as painful, and my brain fog didnât seem as bad as it had been. It was a real wake-up call and it motivated me to try another change â and when that made a difference, I tried another and another. I became addicted to feeling good, and when I brought my awareness to how I felt after every meal, I was able to identify things within my control that I could do to change my health. And when I ate foods that my body needed, I eliminated fatigue and found myself energized. Food was proving to be the absolute building block of everything. I could control what went into my mouth, so I could control much more of how I felt than I ever realized. That was empowering!
My husband, George, was witnessing first-hand the power of how changing a few of my eating habits was impacting my body and how my health was improving. He, too, began incorporating more awareness with his food choices and at the age of 58 is trim, fit, and playing ice hockey on a regular basis!
I have spent the last couple of years paying very close attention to the impact food has on how I feel, think, and function. Iâve also read everything I can get my hands on to learn more about how and why food is such an important component in how we function because I now see the clear correlation. It comes down to the simple fact that food is the building block of every cell in your body, so doesnât it make sense that the quality of what you put into your body impacts the quality of your body and what it can do? Every cell in your body regenerates on a regular basis, so you are making new cells 24/7. If you use high quality materials (the foods that your body needs to perform at its most efficient and best self) then youâre going to have a better quality of life. Period.
My lists of symptoms and the foods that trigger them is long. I had no idea that the root cause of so many of the ailments that had plagued me for so long came down to each decision I made about what to eat. I didnât need to go on a particular diet, like Keto or low-fat. Instead, I needed to find out how my body reacted to everything from the types of food (dairy/meat/grain/etc.) to the quality (grass-fed/organic/hormone, antibiotic free, processed, added sugars, etc.) I was consuming. Once I understood this information, I could then make choices as to what I wanted to do. If I wanted to eliminate the symptoms that were making me so sick I couldnât go to work and function any more, then I had to change my behaviors. If I wanted to continue down the path that I was on, which was pretty miserable at that point, then I could just continue eating the way I had been and I would have undoubtedly progressed even further on the unhealthy track Iâd been on.
Society has made it super convenient for us to grab cheap and handy meals and snacks just about everywhere, but most of those options donât support the needs we have for sustained energy and stamina or to keep us at a healthy weight. We get so busy with jobs and other life events that our default mode often falls into picking up meals that are readily available even if they arenât serving our bodyâs needs. The suggestions in this book will help you rebuild your gut, which is your âsoilâ from which everything else in your body is run. Once you get your gut in better shape, youâll feel the results throughout your entire body.
When flowers and leaves wither and die, we prune those parts away so they donât suck precious energy away from the parts of the plant that are trying to thrive. The same is true for your life â we must release from our lives the things that are no longer serving us well, and that means having a heart-to-heart talk with yourself and deciding you are ready to conquer your health problems once and for all. This involves reevaluating what you are putting in your body based on how you know it makes you feel. If that feeling (outcome) is what you desire, then you can make the choice to support it by eating the foods that help your body attain and maintain health that allows you to do everything you need to do.
The most effective way I found of figuring out what worked for me was to deliberately monitor a specific food or food group and its impact on my health. When I finally came to this realization, it was hard to know where to start. I needed some kind of systematic way to learn which foods were possible culprits for my health issues so I could stop eating things that might be making me sick. I had to do a lot of research and visit a lot of professionals to come up with the information I needed in this process.
Once I compiled everything I learned about how food impacts our mental and physical health, I created the Mojo Meter as a way to assess my clientsâ biggest health challenges. I based it on the process I used to figure out what I needed. Just like me, my clients need and expect to see results, and they need to see them fast. I had run out of patience and time for doing more of the same old treatments, and since they hadnât worked before, I finally realized they werenât going to work again, no matter how many times I repeated them. If I wanted different results, I needed different input. There was simply no getting around it. We will use your results from the mPower Meal Self-Assessment to help you figure out where to start your meal modifications.
I learned that the joint pain Iâd experienced since I was a teenager wasnât actually a lifelong sentence â once I eliminated the foods that caused excessive inflammation in my joints, I was addressing the root cause of the swelling, and I went from being dependent on anti-inflammatory and pain medications and a cane to needing no medications and no longer hurting! Not only has the cane become a thing of the past, but because of my yoga practice, my body moves in ways it never has before (more on this part later).
There are a lot of resources out there with one-size-fits-all health plans and diets. Those donât take into consideration your particular health needs, environment, family, job, and other variables. Itâs really hard to sift through everything and know what will work and what wonât, but I will walk you through some resources I found to be particularly helpful to help you discover what makes you function at your peak.
You are always one decision away from getting closer to your goal. You donât have to make a million decisions about how to change everything all at once. Just one decision at a time. Donât stress about your next decision or what you will do tomorrow. If you keep this principle in mind, youâll find this to be much more manageable and sustainable for the long haul, and isnât that what you are finally seeking to do?
At first it felt like modifying my diet was all about âtaking awayâ everything I loved. My comfort foods, the things I could make in a hurry or meals I could pick up on my way home from work were ingrained in every aspect of what my family and I did, so making major changes that required a lot more thought, time, patience, and often money (yes, better quality food is more expensive than stuff that can be processed quickly and with inferior ingredients) was daunting, especially since I was tired and felt crappy. It wasnât long, however, before I noticed how powerful the tradeoff was â if I took the time to plan, prepare, and eat the types of foods that supported my brain and body, I became invincible. It was crazy amazing ⌠and addicting. It felt good to have the weight melt off. It amazed me to see how quickly my skin cleared up, to the point where I often go out in public without make up on because I now feel so comfortable. The more attention I paid to what I was eating and how it made me feel, the more control I had in changing my destiny. That was empowering and I was hooked.
Now that you are ready to turn your health around, itâs time to start with a self-assessment so you can begin the transformation you desire and deserve. I can tell you about what I did to get healthy, but I canât do the work for you. I can do it with you and share the resources I used, and if you follow the advice, youâll experience a freedom that comes with being well that changes your entire life. It becomes easier to do the things you have to do, and you find yourself feeling good enough to do the things you want to do (how long has it been since thatâs happened?). There will be challenges, but you have the tools you need to overcome them. And if you want to jumpstart your wellness with a free self-assessment, I’ve got your back…
You wonât be changing all your habits at once. Instead, you want to find the ones that will have the biggest and most positive impact. Once you see and feel the connection between the food you are eating and the way your body responds, you’ll be amazed. Then decide if you like those changes. If you do, great. If not, then make a different change.
I was skeptical that food had anything to do with things like brain fog and arthritis pain, so I approached this with a suspicious but desperate mindset. Until I actually felt the incredible changes in my body, I hadnât believed the meals I ate could be that powerful and have such an impact on every aspect of my mind and body. Boy, was I wrong!
I highly recommend keeping a food journal, even using an app to track what youâre eating â I know youâve heard it before and itâs a drag, but it is an excellent tool for helping you see where you are making progress and where you still need help. It also makes it easier to make good food choices when you know you are holding yourself accountable in writing!
The food groups I suggest eliminating are based on research done from various medical practitioners, the resources listed at the end of this book, and what Iâve learned through years of practice with my own body. Your body will react differently than anyone elseâs, so be sure to pay attention to how you feel. Write down not only what you eat, but how you feel before, during, and after your meals. A simple happy face, word, or other indicator is all you need to start seeing patterns in the relationship between your meals and how you feel.
As you begin to make one change and then another, youâll be blown away by the results. By taking time each day to deliberately make choices about the meals you are using to fuel your brain and body, you are investing in a new and improved you, and thatâs why you are here in the first place.
In a nutshell, from what Iâve found in my own practice and with those with whom I work, there are some key food groups that have a huge impact across multiple areas youâre trying to address. If you are struggling with weight, for example, your most effective way to address it is likely through the elimination of grains. Think about it â when farmers are fattening up their livestock, what do they feed them? Corn and other grains. Those grains do the same thing to your body that they do to the cows and pigs â they add weight and bulk you up. Donât believe me? See what happens if you eliminate grains from your meals for just one week. Not only will weight begin melting off, but you might also be delighted to discover that your brain fog is clearing up, along with the painful swelling of your joints. The benefits will become evident and you will quickly come to feel the correlation between what goes in your body and how you function.
By now, you may be a bit worried about what you can eat. It may seem like all Iâve focused on is elimination of food groups. Thatâs because a huge part of getting and staying healthy is resetting your gut biome, and the only way to do that is to change what goes in your gut. But in addition to eliminating what isnât serving you well, you must also be vigilant about providing high quality meals that support brain and body health.
The list of what you can and should eat is long. For example, high quality lean meat serves to provide you with protein thatâs necessary for helping you function. Grass-fed beef and grass-fed dairy provide excellent sources of healthy fats that keeps you going longer and at a steadier pace than any carbs and sugar can do. If you are not able to process or choose not to eat meat, your protein sources could include tofu, eggs, and nuts.
Many people turn to salads and other raw foods in an attempt to get healthy. Kale and other dark green veggies are full of vitamins, but if your body has difficulty processing them, they may cause you distress. Simply cooking them in a small amount of broth or high quality oil (olive, coconut, or avocado) for a few minutes to wilt them begins the digestion process and makes them gentler on your belly while still allowing you to access the nutritional benefits.
ACTION PLAN:
Use a food journal or app on your phone to track your progress. Keep track of every food choice you make for the next twenty-one days. It takes that long to establish a new habit. And notice how you feelas your body adapts to the new changes. Sometimes the first few days our bodies actually feel worse before feeling better, so donât let that get you down. Just acknowledge it and know it will get better. Donât try to change everything at once â just the one thing you are focusing on at first.
Make a commitment to do your best to incorporate one new habit at a time because you are investing in your well-being so you can regain your energy, health, and vitality. You are worth it, so be as insistent on taking care of yourself as you would be if you were taking care of a loved one.
You’re not alone. I know the feeling all too well. As a music teacher, you pour your heart and soul into your work. But are you finding that your passion is turning into pain? Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed, with no time for yourself or your loved ones?
I understand the challenges that come with being a music teacher and what that does to one’s well-being. The constant demand for lesson planning, rehearsals, fundraising, community events, sporting events, trips and performances can leave you feeling drained and burnt out.
And if you have a family or want to have a life outside of school, yeah, we all know what that feels like after a long day of work.
But there is hope.
I have found a solution that has helped me regain control of my time and energy and reignite my passion for teaching music.
I would like to introduce you to The mPower Method, a unique approach to teaching music that helps music teachers to find a healthier balance and reduce stress.
The mPower Method is a combination of unique classroom strategies, time management techniques and self-care practices that have been specifically designed for busy music teachers.
Over the course of the next few months, Iâm going to share bite-sized strategies you can use to help you combat the drain that teaching music, especially since the pandemic, has become.
From the classroom to your personal life, the mPower Method addresses the unique stressors and challenges that come with the demands of being a music educator and gives you âhomeworkâ that will have you looking at your current practices and what you might be able to tweak to do this job in a more sustainable way.
Imagine if you had a student who was struggling playing a passage on trombone. She was trying to go quickly back and forth between a Db and an F, desperately attempting to repeatedly go from fifth to first position and feeling frustrated because it is hard. If you saw her struggling, youâd likely introduce her to the option of using an alternate position for F, in sixth position, so suddenly it becomes very easy to quickly go between fifth and sixth positions. Itâs a small change, but the result is mastering something with more ease and in a more effective way. She saves time and wasted energy with this one slight change.
Thatâs the principle behind the mPower Method. I share the strategies that have worked for me and thousands of people Iâve worked with to help you find ways to do things that bring as much ease as the discovery of an alternate fingering for a difficult passage does for a struggling musician.
Through the mPower Method, you will learn how to:
Identify the areas in your life that are causing the biggest threat to your physical and mental well-being
Create small changes that have enormous impact on your time, energy and ability to keep doing this important work in a healthier way
Implement practices to maintain your physical and emotional well-being while still delivering a fabulous experience for your students
Have more time and energy for doing the things you love, like spending time with friends and family without being drained
Stay tuned for mPowered Mondays and begin turning things around now!
Don’t let the demands of being a music teacher consume you. Join me on a journey to discover the power of the mPower Method and reclaim your love for teaching and passion for music.
If you can’t wait for the weekly tidbits and want to get started on a healthier journey now, click the button below for a complimentary strategy session where we will talk about your particular challenges and I’ll help you fast-track your transition from loving the job that’s killing you to loving your job and reducing your stress!
Imagine how good it will feel to finally take control after three years of teaching through unimaginable situations. This has been a rough road and I want to invite you to hop on board for this health journey.
Last year at this time I was struggling. A lot. So much so that I invested $10k in an agency to help me find a job outside of education. I just couldn’t do it anymore. Years 33 and 34 nearly broke me.
We were back in the building after 18 months of online teaching and everything was supposed to be “back to normal.” But it wasn’t and I found myself in a really sad and dark place.
A week before schools shut down at the beginning of the pandemic, I finished my manuscript for Love the Job, Lose the Stress, and as we found ourselves thrown into everything that came with teaching during this time, I felt like a fool for having written a book with a title like that!
I found myself no longer loving my job. It wasn’t the stress that was the problem, it was that I found I’d lost my joy in the very thing that used to light me up. Being in the same space where I’d had decades of growth and incredible memories became a different place after Covid disrupted everything. I found that just walking into my bandroom became a trigger for sadness, grief and despair.
The trauma of teaching during the pandemic is real. In my work with teachers who are in the same situation, they are trying to figure out if they should stay in the profession or if it’s time to find a new path because they’ve felt this same struggle.
I knew that if I was going to successfully go into a non-educational field, I would need help with everything from getting my resume updated so it resonated with companies for whom I wanted to work to preparing for interviews and getting clarity with the kind of role I was seeking.
I found a company that specializes in career transitions, made a huge financial investment and dove in to the process with the intent of finding a job that would allow me to walk away from teaching and into something where I could once again find joy and purpose.
I diligently showed up to all the coaching calls. I did the homework. I spent a lot of time asking myself hard questions. I began to get clear on my goals and narrow down the kind of work I needed to do in order to thrive.
And then I found it.
The result wasn’t at all what I expected. After all, when I dropped that kind of money, I fully anticipated I’d be making a change into a corporate role working year-round at something like education or performance travel, curriculum design or arts advocacy.
The process I was going through helped me gain clarity on my goals:
Find a role where I could have a positive impact on others
Make a difference for youth who have experienced trauma
Make at least the amount I was making in my current teaching role
Have generous time off
Love what I do
Once I got real clarity on my goals, I found the perfect role that fulfills all these goals (and more) and it wasn’t at all what I expected it to be.
The job that came to the surface for me showed up because it checked all the boxes in my goal list:
I make a positive impact on others
I work directly with youth who have experienced trauma (pandemic and more)
I make the same amount of money I made in my former role
I work 183 days a year
I LOVE what I am doing – it’s fresh and new but still familiar
It feels so good to thrive in the classroom again!
After gaining clarity on my goals by working with someone who guided me through the process and helped me identify the right choice for me, the answer became crystal clear.
Last June I was shocked to find myself asking my middle school feeder director if he’d switch jobs with me. I realized that I still found passion and purpose in teaching music, but all of the additional evening and weekend commitments that go with being a high school band director, expecially since the pandemic hit, no longer brought me the joy it used to. I needed the connections with students and being a teacher is in my blood, but after 35 years of doing this work, it was time for a change, and the change that turned out to be right for me was literally right under my nose.
Since making the decision to swap jobs and move to the feeder middle school, I’ve found renewed happiness in my life’s work. I truly thought leaving teaching was my only option, and for many people that is the right choice, but for me, going through this process guided me to the right place for me to be.
Are you at a crossroads? Are you questioning whether or not you can or should continue down the path of teaching or pursue something else in order to find your joy? Do you wonder how you’d even begin looking for a job outside the education field?
Well, I invested a lot of time and money in figuring out how to find a role that is right for me and I’m sharing what I learned with you!
Join me for Should I Stay or Should I Go? Gaining clarity and making a plan for career fulfillment. I’ll host this informal session for free and share a few key things I learned from my $10k investment to save you some time and money!
At this interactive discussion on Thursday, January 6 at 4:00 pacific time, you’ll learn:
How to identify whether your current situation is a healthy and appropriate place for you to be
Important timeline and steps to take to transition from teaching to another career
How to edit your resume so it appeals to employers you’re targeting
How to get yourself out there on LinkedIn and other places where you can be discovered
As a FREE BONUS, attendees will receive a copy of my “teacher” resume and the “corporate” resume created by the company I hired so you can create your own resume by translating your teacher skills into verbiage that resonates in the corporate world. (Save yourself thousands of dollars by using this tool!)
We are at the time of year when teachers need to think about next year’s contract. Right now there’s time for you to look at your options, but soon you’ll have to sign a contract and be locked in for another year. Or you need to get some clarity on what you want and take the steps to make it happen. I can help.
If you’re like a lot of the music teachers I’ve worked with over the past several years, you’ve been through a LOT of changes and now is the time to pause, reassess and move forward in a way that supports your mental and physical health.
I hope you’re happy and fulfilled in your current role, but if you’re not and you’re wondering what to do next, you should come to this conversation.
I was in a staff development meeting the other day when the faciliator used the phrase “Emotional Labor.” As he described it (it’s essentially masking and conforming how we express our emotions to the norms of our environment – for example, being the one who has to stay calm and carry on in your roles in spite of the shit-show going on all around you) and shared the ramifications of too much of it (burnout, decreased job and life satisfaction, and health problems), I felt like I finally had a phrase to describe what I (and every other teacher) have experienced as educators for the past two and a half years.
Even though I have lots of tools for helping minimize and respond to stressors, I struggled this year. I found myself emotionally exhausted from all of the things that have happened and continue to happen. Supporting students through these challenges when we are in the midst of so much upheaval left me drained.
As teachers, we often set lofty goals for summer. Perhaps this summer you thought you could finally spend some time and energy on your own recovery and reset before school starts in the fall, but now that summer’s here you find yourself wondering where to even begin.
Maybe simply getting up and dressed is more than you can handle right now. You’re just DONE after this year. Those goals that you know are important feel too overwhelming now that the time to work on them is here.
I understand. I remember when I hit rock bottom and knew I needed to turn my own health around five years ago. Failure to address the toll the stress from my job was taking on my health was costing me dearly.
Once I decided that was what I needed to do, I had no idea where to begin. How was I supposed to turn my mental and physical health around when I didn’t even know where should I start?
I needed help figuring out how to protect my health. My journey to a healthier state of mind and body involved seeking help from a lot of sources and required spending time and resources on a ton of research, trial and error, and patience.
When I finally distilled the four key areas that had the most positive impact on my mental and physical health, I wrote a book to help other teachers assess their own health goals and share the steps they can take to reach them. I wanted it to serve as the GPS for teacher wellness because having a road-map makes this journey SO much easier than trying to figure it out for yourself.
This short interview with Oliver Seigel where I outline some steps you can take to support your own well-being may be just what you’ve been looking for to help you use this summer to take back your health and build habits that keep you healthy! It may resonate with you if you have come to the realization that investing in your own wellbeing is fundamental to everything else.
Attending to your own needs while teaching during a pandemic has been pretty doggone challenging. Don’t let summer pass you by without filling your own cup.
With you on this journey- Lesley
Lesley Moffat found herself in an especially stressful situation with her job, and it took an immense toll on her physical health and mental well-being. But instead of quitting, Lesley turned things around and not only improved her own life, but also generated better outcomes in her work! Watch this interesting episode about a simple approach to solving a big, complicated problem! – Oliver Seigel, CEO Enolve
This has been the hardest year of my teaching career.
I thought I would retire in 2020, but the pandemic changed everything. I’ve stayed in the classroom and walked the same walk you’ve been on…and it has been hard.
That’s not to say that there weren’t a million little things to love about being in-person and making music again, but there have been a million other things that are new and different and hard.
Now that summer is upon us, there’s time to reflect on where you’ve been, where you are, and where you are going. If you’ve been left unfazed by the past three years of teaching, then that’s great, but if you’ve found the past three years to be hard on your mental and physical wellbeing, then I invite you to check out this blog by my new friend Katrina Proctor of SheTheTeacher.Â
Katrina and I met through our shared interest in supporting music educators in doing this work in a more sustainable way. We both struggled with our mental and physical health due to stress from our jobs. And we both believe in sharing what we’ve learned so you amazing music educators have the tools you need to find the healthy balance.
Katrina’s latest blog is from our conversation about the four key areas on which I focused in taking myself from unhealthy and struggling to healthy and happier. Maybe an idea or two will resonate with you and help you take a step toward a more sustainable work/life relationship.
THANK YOU for all you’ve given to your students and your communities as we have experienced so much loss, trauma and grief during a pandemic and so many other issues we are facing. You’ve undoubtedly upheld others even as you struggled yourself. You’ve given grace time and time again even when you’ve needed to be given grace. And you’ve shown up and used music to help your students process their emotions during all of this, even when you’ve been beyond exhausted yourself.
This. Has. Been. Hard … so what do you do now?
In Katrina’s blog, she outlines The mPower Method, my signature program from my first book, specifically geared toward assessing and addressing the areas where small changes can have a big impact in your life. I think you’ll find it to be helpful if you aren’t sure where to even start recovering from the past few years.
I offer this blog in hopes that it gives you whatever you need in order to feel a little happier and healthier.